September 12, 2011

power of groups

i miss weight watchers meetings. neal calls it a cult; i call it group therapy. i'm taking a group therapy course this semester, which has me thinking more and more about groups. i never thought about ww in that context, but it absolutely is therapeutic. using the counseling jargon, it's a psychoeducational group. basically, a group that has a central theme around which there is discussion and skill building. AA is another good example

i don't believe i took it for granted how much benefit i'd get from ww. i knew going in that i was a meetings girl; i needed face to face support when i was starting out. i definitely overestimated the ability of the online community to replace my meetings though. not to say my online support isn't spectacular, but i definitely believe there is a piece missing. the weekly #wwchat fizzled, iitgi floundered and i don't want to join the mfp discussion boards. all i have are blogs and twitter, which i'm not utilizing to their full potential. i could be doing so much better. i could reach out to others for help. i could implement a plan based on ideas from other bloggers. i could start documenting my struggles and successes again. but i won't. something gets lost in translation online. because, short of expressing myself in tumblr posts, i'm finding it extremely hard to convey precisely what i mean

it's frustrating. i'm frustrated with the same information. i'm frustrated with the support inconsistencies. but mostly, i'm frustrated with myself. intellectually, i'm there. i know what to do and how to do it. i'm just not emotionally involved. i can't work up the excitement i used to have. for myself and for others. i love the internet, but it just can't fulfill the role i need sufficiently

feeling a bit lost (via tumblr)

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I always felt so disconnected in my Weight Watcher meetings. Maybe it was just that my heart wasn't into it, but I never felt the connection and support others have found. I do hope you'll go back to a meeting, though, since it seems like something you really want!
1 reply · active 706 weeks ago
thanks, stephany :) i might go back when my finances stabilize again. i think right now i'm just going through the motions without those weekly checkins. i'm sorry you didn't feel connected at a meeting; i hope you've found a support network that works though
I definitely understand this, especially lately. Online support is fantastic, but nothing beats the feeling of actually saying the things we're feeling out loud and unburdening ourselves of their weight. It feels so good to let go, especially in a group of likeminded people, people who understand the struggles and the challenges. I've never done WW before but was thinking about trying to find some local meetings, just so I meet some people who want to be healthy.
1 reply · active 706 weeks ago
"actually saying the things we're feeling out loud... especially in a group of likeminded people, people who understand the struggles and the challenges." mary, i think you hit the nail on the head. i lose something talking to my computer that prevents me from fully moving forward
We all need physical interaction with like-minded (and not so like-minded, sometimes) human beings, so I think it makes perfect sense when you say that the Internet just isn't meeting your needs. I hope you can find a way to get what you're needing very soon. :)
1 reply · active 706 weeks ago
thanks, lady :) i definitely have a few people, but i think i've been putting too much on them since my network has shrunk. taking too much, but not giving enough back *sigh*

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