tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2366992595131926031.post6609297482243301006..comments2023-05-27T04:53:47.100-04:00Comments on Desultory Diversions: i vacuum in heelsmichellehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14500165198361703056noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2366992595131926031.post-71035270034878286122010-10-08T11:07:11.634-04:002010-10-08T11:07:11.634-04:00My mom always worked, too. But my grandparents (b...My mom always worked, too. But my grandparents (both sets) were much more entrenched in traditional gender roles. Even when my grandmother worked, it was still her job to do all the cooking and cleaning.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2366992595131926031.post-12526102995205922942010-10-07T12:22:37.446-04:002010-10-07T12:22:37.446-04:00I'm with ya on the shared tasks and keeping th...I'm with ya on the shared tasks and keeping the house up not solely being the woman's job! I plan on bringing in just as much as my future husband and in no way see how I could be a full time SAHM. Bleh. I will say I didn't do my own laundry until I was in college, but that was because my mom found it easier to divide up the loads between 4 people instead of having 4 people then divide up their own loads. Less water used or something. I did help with the folding though.Hutchhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05675915108416510294noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2366992595131926031.post-15797919746374730202010-10-05T23:46:46.196-04:002010-10-05T23:46:46.196-04:00my folks raised me to be able to cook for myself a...my folks raised me to be able to cook for myself and hang my own pictures. it's a nice skill set.<br /><br />in my last relationship, i did everything, both traditionally male and traditionally female jobs. the only thing my ex did was take out the trash (once it was overflowing all over the kitchen) and take care of his dog. i did everything else. <br /><br />my new boyfriend and i don't live together, so i don't have a barometer there. i cook sunday dinner every week, he buys the groceries. he pays for more things than i do, but he works and i'm in school. we do have a fairly traditional relationship when it comes to holding doors and little things like that, but we are absolutely intellectual and emotional equals. he doesn't freak out when i contradict his football opinions in front of his boys; in fact, he loves the debate. <br /><br />i guess my point is this: gender "roles," to me, are nowhere near as important as the overall level of respect you're accorded. i don't care who does what, as long as at the end of the day, he doesn't see me as less than him because of our gender.magnoliahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06459330762697628839noreply@blogger.com